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only started arguin now...

PostPosted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 6:47 pm
by Lauraatbristol
Ok, here goes... me n my sister were always close when we were growin up... but now we've started to argue... im 20 n shes 18. She lives at home n im at uni. Everytime i go home she really embarrasses me in front of my friends. When i walk in she says things like "why have you got a dent in your forehead?" n "Look at the state of your eyebrows" and "Let me look at your teeth". Really pathetic things. She says she's just curious when she asks these questions so she never gets in trouble with my mum, but they are just annoying and embarrasing questions. She's going travelling in a month for 6 months n i can't wait... am i being petty???? Why is she acting like such a child all of a sudden??

PostPosted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 7:20 pm
by LME79
I don't think you're being petty. I reckon that, with a roundabout way of showing it, she misses you. My sister used to do it to me all the time but she didn't want to appear overly joyous to see me so she used to embarrass me instead.
Also, she is going travelling so again, she may not want to appear overly emotional or anything. Some people are just like that, I'm afraid.

Have you tried spending some time together? Me and my sister go shopping and"lunching" all the time now and it's a great way to bond :)

Good luck xx

PostPosted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 7:49 pm
by Lauraatbristol
yeah hopefully you're right. I did phone her a minute ago n she seemed pleased to hear from me. Its just weird why she's started it now, i've been at uni for 3 years now. Also she seems to do it more when i bring blokes round. I think maybe she feels uncomfortable with blokes she doesn't know as she's been with the same guy since she was 14. Maybe she just doesnt know what to say. I think u might be right about the travellin thing coz before i went to France for 3 months i did kinda treat my mum n dad quite badly but only because really i knew i was gonna miss them! Cheers for that, just needed a 2nd opinion!

PostPosted: Fri Feb 25, 2005 12:45 pm
by arwen
Maybe she just has trouble expressing herself, and emotional situations like your visits home make her uncomfortable and embarrassed, so her way of dealing with it is to make you embarrassed too so she's not alone.

If you can ignore it or laugh it off, do so. If it really gets to you just say in a calm, quiet voice, "there's no need for that", ideally when there's no-one else around. Maybe she'll grow out of it!