My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

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My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby saramidnite » Mon Oct 12, 2009 3:32 pm

I am moving to N.Ireland in 6days and i cant wait to live with my boyfriend
my parents abuse me before and after they split.
so did my stepdad.

i am very close to my baby sister and my mum has known for ages i am leaving
i even gave her frist chnce to choose which sunday before asking any one else
i really wanted to say good bye to my sister

all i got was sundays i am busy doing the washing and the ironing
it really hurt,
i know she dont love me
she wont leave my abusive stepdad and even told my dad and stepdad in the past to hurt me in stead of her

she only phone s once every 4months t tell me she fed up and she her husband must be cheating or gay as he is not having sex with her
how can she be so heartless

my dad also abuse me and told people men were touching me when i was a kid
i found child porn on his computer and told the police
he almost kill me
i am not sure should i say good bye to him or not
i not spoke to him in 3years
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Tue Oct 13, 2009 9:15 am

If you haven't spoken to your dad I wouldn't say bye now - however you could write him a letter and post is when you are leaving just to let him know if you want.

If your sister is too selfish to say bye then forget her too; I know you obvioulsy care for her BUT you can't force her; forget them all and focus on your future :).
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby earthchild » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:21 am

it must be very upsetting for you and for your sister, could you not write a letter to her ? or catch up with her when she is on her way to school?
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:32 am

I don't think she meant baby sister as in her sister is a baby, rather her sister is her little (baby) sister.
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby saramidnite » Wed Oct 14, 2009 12:50 pm

my sister is 11years old
she wanted to say good bye but my mum said she to busy washing and ironing so i can visit my mum to see my sister
my mum moved, i know the area name but it a very big place,
i dont know where my sister school is or my mums new house, let alone the adress i am really gutted i am working till the end of the week so it to late now i told my mum when i had the weekends off and she didnt want to knwo
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby snail » Wed Oct 14, 2009 6:01 pm

Can't you ask your Mum for her address via phone and make a note of it? Then you could write to her and your sister at least, and visit their home if you came back to the UK for a holiday.
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Re: My mum won't let say good bye to my sister

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:28 am

I agree with snail. You could also ask to speak to your sister on the phone and ask if she has an email address.
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