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bestfriend problems

Postby opi » Wed Aug 27, 2003 8:15 pm

Hi

My bestfriend, 19, seems to be always looking for a father figure in her sexual relationships, but she says this is mainly because she wants security.

Relently she met a man who is 42 who already has a girlfriend of 4 years. She's fallen in love with him and they have done some intimate things together and now she doesn't know what to do.
:-?

Please could you give me some advice on how to help her with her situation.
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Postby winnie3n » Wed Aug 27, 2003 11:39 pm

Hi there

Difficult this one.

Is there a reason why she is looking for a father figure? If there is, then maybe you need to talk to her about it.

With regard her seeing the 42 year old who already has a girlfriend. Talk to her about it. You need to discuss whether the relationship has a future with her and get her to look honestly at how she thinks this guy feels for her.

If he already has a girlfriend, then the chances are that she doesnot know what is going on and this could get into a sticky situation for all concerned (I should know).

You can only talk and give her advice, and that depends on what she says to you.

Hope everything resolves itself.


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Postby sovs » Thu Aug 28, 2003 12:03 am

Age gaps dont bother me, its the fact she wants a father figure thats concerning.
I think you can only really be there for her and support her.
If you try telling her shes making a mistake it will just cause arguments just be there and try to be understanding.

Your a good friend to be concerned.

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Postby ktmcg » Wed Sep 03, 2003 2:04 pm

i think the problem with this situation isn't the age gap, it's the fact that he already has a girlfriend of four years.
it looks as though because he already has a long term relationship she could get hurt.
and if this isn't what she wants then she should get out now.
i'm not as think as you confused i am.
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