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Not sexually attracted to my partner.

Postby cernunus » Sat Oct 25, 2008 6:40 am

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Postby Bel Bel » Sat Oct 25, 2008 4:01 pm

look you can't stay with someone becasue you feel sorry for them and lets face it that is what your doing. You said yourself she is a lovely person so what makes you think she won't find someone else
Yes it may hurt but she must realise something is wrong if you haven't slept together in 4 years
Free her and yourself and agree to be friends if she wants that
Don't be in too much of a hurry to move on anyway it's always best to take a break before rushing into something else
Either that or get lonely and more miserable
Yes it will be hard and it will hurt but it;s being fair and true to both of you
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what makes you think she won't find someone else

Postby cernunus » Tue Oct 28, 2008 4:34 am

"what makes you think she won't find someone else "


I think she would find someone else in a flash. But she says to me she just wants someone else for sex. She wants me for the platonic part of the relationship.

Thanks for your comments-its good to hear it from someone else.

Its funny the last relationship I was in was the opposite. I was sexually attracted to her, but grew to hate her personality.


aby I should just give up and choose the misery!.....lol!
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Postby Bel Bel » Tue Oct 28, 2008 4:25 pm

no just don't settle for someone who isn't right and move on instead of wasting your life and theirs where you don't really want to be
It's hard to find mrs right while your still with mrs wrong
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Postby snail » Tue Oct 28, 2008 8:06 pm

It sounds to me like she wants to fix the relationship - if necessary by drastic means such as sleeping with someone else - while you want to end it. You say that you love her very much, but you also say that you never really wanted to get serious with her, so I get the impression that you like her and care for her, but never really loved her in the romantic way.

I agree with Bel Bel I'm afraid - however painful it is, you're not doing either her or you any favours by staying. She can't be properly happy in this relationship - give her the chance to find someone who does find her attractive. You don't say how old she is, but if there's a chance of her having children, you obviously won't be able to give her that, and must set her free as soon as possible.
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