New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

This area is for general aimless chit chat.
Forum rules
NEW USERS HAVE TO WAIT FOR THEIR FIRST POSTS TO BE APPROVED BY AN ADMINISTRATOR. Rules | Essential Information | FAQ | Support | Twitter

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby captainf » Tue Sep 01, 2009 10:31 pm

Not exactly high maintenace but maybe abit. No one can really 'know' if you're actually busy doing something so you would just have to tell them so they know not to send you lots of texts. Like, if you love sending/recieving loads of texts and you have a boyfriend who does this then thats great but he cant just 'know' when he isnt to text you because he doesnt know when you are busy or not. Equally he wont know when you're bored and want to recieve lots of texts.

I like the idea of texting though - allows you to converse with your partner when you're not able to be with them and also gives you something to lookforward to (recieving a text from them) when you're at work or having a rubbish day.
Remember how the runway lights looked one night long ago when you were lost and found your way, and how-you still dont know?
User avatar
captainf
Long Term Lodger
Long Term Lodger
 
Posts: 4763
Joined: Thu Aug 14, 2003 6:28 pm
Location: Milton Keynes
Gender: Male

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby LME79 » Wed Sep 02, 2009 7:17 am

That's not high maintenance, rufio.
I prefer e-mail. E-mail doesn't goes BEEEEEEP or ZZZZZZZZ every other minute (SO annoying), plus you can say more in an e-mail and link each other up to youtube vids and the like. Also, if you're e-mailing and pull a 'serious' face it looks like you're working even if I'm just sending my boyfriend loads of funny jpgs. Did I mention I really don't like texting? It hurts my thumb.
I want to be..a tree..
User avatar
LME79
Moderator
Moderator
 
Posts: 1926
Joined: Sat Dec 18, 2004 9:44 pm
Location: The edge of reason
Gender: Female

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby RagDoll » Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:16 am

Yeh, I prefer emails whilst I'm at work too, but I guess Rufio can't do that with date-guy as he doesn't have an office based job!
We don’t see things the way they are; we see things the way we are
User avatar
RagDoll
Taken Root
Taken Root
 
Posts: 2101
Joined: Tue Dec 02, 2008 10:57 am
Location: North East England
Gender: Female

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Sep 03, 2009 8:46 am

rufio89 wrote: i only like that many texts if im really bored. If im doing something im enjoying i find it annoying. They have to just "know


captainf wrote:Not exactly high maintenace but maybe abit. No one can really 'know' if you're actually busy doing something so you would just have to tell them so they know not to send you lots of texts. Like, if you love sending/recieving loads of texts and you have a boyfriend who does this then thats great but he cant just 'know' when he isnt to text you because he doesnt know when you are busy or not. Equally he wont know when you're bored and want to recieve lots of texts.


I agree with Ruth. My bf doesn't text back unless I text back so if we are bored there are lots of texts; if we are busy we don't reply so the other person will "know".
A hug is a great gift, one size fits all.
User avatar
dipsydoodlenoodle
Long Term Lodger
Long Term Lodger
 
Posts: 3928
Joined: Fri Feb 08, 2008 4:24 pm
Location: England
Gender: Female

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby captainf » Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:03 pm

Yeah but thats not the point I was making.
Men are not mind readers and sometimes women can go into "ignoring" mode when they are annoyed with something, so if you're busy thats fair enough but men just cant 'know' the difference. If your boyfriend texts you and you dont reply theres no need for him to text again, but if one minute you want alot of texts from him and the next you dont that can be abit confusing down to the fact that as I say men can't read your mind and know when they are and are not allowed to text you.
Remember how the runway lights looked one night long ago when you were lost and found your way, and how-you still dont know?
User avatar
captainf
Long Term Lodger
Long Term Lodger
 
Posts: 4763
Joined: Thu Aug 14, 2003 6:28 pm
Location: Milton Keynes
Gender: Male

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby LME79 » Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:18 pm

captainf wrote:Yeah but thats not the point I was making.
Men are not mind readers and sometimes women can go into "ignoring" mode when they are annoyed with something, so if you're busy thats fair enough but men just cant 'know' the difference. If your boyfriend texts you and you dont reply theres no need for him to text again, but if one minute you want alot of texts from him and the next you dont that can be abit confusing down to the fact that as I say men can't read your mind and know when they are and are not allowed to text you.


That's not limited to men :lol:
I want to be..a tree..
User avatar
LME79
Moderator
Moderator
 
Posts: 1926
Joined: Sat Dec 18, 2004 9:44 pm
Location: The edge of reason
Gender: Female

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby captainf » Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:31 pm

Indubitably. :)
Remember how the runway lights looked one night long ago when you were lost and found your way, and how-you still dont know?
User avatar
captainf
Long Term Lodger
Long Term Lodger
 
Posts: 4763
Joined: Thu Aug 14, 2003 6:28 pm
Location: Milton Keynes
Gender: Male

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby rufio89 » Tue Jul 29, 2014 3:31 pm

Haha I stumbled across this post because I'm bored at work and feeling reflective and just felt I had to post:

I cant believe I WANTED someone to text me SIXTY times a DAY! I love my boyfriend to pieces, but if I'm at work and he texts me for no reason, I have a bit of a 'whaddayawant' sort of reaction to it.

It's funny how much people change!
rufio89
Taken Root
Taken Root
 
Posts: 2565
Joined: Mon Aug 04, 2008 1:05 pm
Location: Nottingham
Gender: Female

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

Postby Bel Bel » Wed Jul 30, 2014 12:37 pm

Or grow up :P :P :P
Nice to know you are in a much healthier place in a relationship now :D
Life is for living so live it to the fullest

Cheap Pandora Charms UK

User avatar
Bel Bel
Fully Fledged Flatmate
Fully Fledged Flatmate
 
Posts: 6758
Joined: Thu May 10, 2007 1:58 pm
Location: Hertfordshire
Gender: Female

Previous

Return to Chit Chat

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Majestic-12 [Bot] and 0 guests

cron