should i tell my mate im in love with him

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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Dec 18, 2009 10:17 am

Also you could talk when you were friends but now it's crossed a line and you friendship can never be the same so he is unlikely to talk to you
Even if he did now the dynamics have changed you couldn't be sure he was being honest
He has cheated before so he is not a nice guy, honestly save yourself the heartache and keep away from him
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Fri Dec 18, 2009 5:40 pm

i dont even know if he knows, he has cut himself off all of his friends, he has been texting me.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Sun Dec 20, 2009 4:58 pm

well he has been texting me a lot more lately, ironically he gives me advice on other men.

he said he is trying to be good so i think he knows i like him.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby captainf » Sun Dec 20, 2009 6:04 pm

Hmm it does sound like hes sort of finished it with you and trying to keep friendly.
I guess maybe hes decided he doesnt want to cheat on his girlfriend. Or maybe he doesnt want to cheat on her with you? I dont know but what you should remember is that he has cheated on his girlfriend and that shows hes awful boyfriend material. I think he saw you as abit of fun and unfortunately you fell for him. Thats a shame as obviously you want to be loved too but sadly he didnt respect you and he didnt respect his girlfriend neither.

Try to reduce your contact with him and slowly phase him out. You dont want someone like that in your life.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Sun Dec 20, 2009 6:13 pm

thanks for ur reply.

i know he is a cheat but he is such a lovely guy, i cant begin to tell u... i thought i was falling for him before we even met up again, i thought this is mad and it is. ur right i do want to be loved but ive had so called relationships with guys and never felt like this, i mean i never said a word and his mate could tell just by looking at me.

i am literally thinking about him all the time....

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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby Banana_split » Sun Dec 20, 2009 7:08 pm

I've been where you are - nice guy, good friend, can't get him off your mind.

I think sometimes, you have to ignore what your hearts telling you and rely on logic for some things. I realise that sounds odd. You've noted all the rubbish that he's pulled, how he's treated others etc. You need to remember all this. It takes time but you're so much better off walking away from this.

You've got so much to give someone, that it shouldn't ever be wasted on someone who won't or can't appreciate it!

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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Sun Dec 20, 2009 7:34 pm

thanks i know what ur saying but how r u supposed to walk away from it, i still want him in my life
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby RagDoll » Sun Dec 20, 2009 9:07 pm

madbird wrote:i know he is a cheat but he is such a lovely guy


To me, these things are diametrically opposed. Most cheats aren't lovely people.

madbird wrote:thanks i know what ur saying but how r u supposed to walk away from it, i still want him in my life


You might still want him in your life - but he's not yours to have is he? The only way he can be in your life is as a friend and the way you're talking, it sounds like you can't be just friends with him.. so the best thing to do would be to cut contact, or at least stop having so much contact and give yourself a chance to move on. You're not going to stop thinking about him if you're texting him all the time, are you?!
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Sun Dec 20, 2009 9:08 pm

thanks for your comments.


i wont stop thinking about him anyway.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby RagDoll » Sun Dec 20, 2009 9:13 pm

madbird wrote:i wont stop thinking about him anyway.


Not over-night, perhaps not for months, but you will eventually. If you left it well alone, your feelings for him would eventually fade.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby captainf » Sun Dec 20, 2009 11:19 pm

He isnt all that nice really. Hes a fraud. He pretends he is nice because in a way hes grooming you. Once you got to know the real him you'd see hes a cheater, plain and simple.

If you phase him out of your life your feelings will soon subside.
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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby madbird » Mon Dec 21, 2009 8:31 am

because hes cheated, doesnt make him a horrible person, he didnt have to tell me that! he could have pretended to be something he wasnt.

he has been flirting with me but i dont think it was his intention for me to fall for him, i certainly didnt want to feel this way.

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Re: should i tell my mate im in love with him

Postby Bel Bel » Mon Dec 21, 2009 2:05 pm

If your a decent person you finish with the person your with out of respect for them and anyone else you become involved with
You are blinkered that he is nice because you have fallen for him
I agree you should stay away you cannot be his friend as you want more and you will just end up getting hurt
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