A friend... or a potential to be more?

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A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Ogadai » Mon Nov 30, 2009 9:27 pm

ok here's something unusual for you...
i've been going to college now for nearly a whole term and it's all been going pretty smoothly... a little shaky at one point after an intimate encounter at a party, but other than that all good.
recently i've grown quite close to these two twins who i see most of the week. one of them in particular i've grown so close to that you could mistake us for boyfriend and girlfriend how we sit on the train and stuff... ironically 2 of my friends have both said to her why don't we get together and me and her both laugh at the idea because i know she likes someone else, she's told me a good few times and i even ask how it's going with the guy too.
but i can't help but wonder... maybe we could... it's not majorly serious to the point i want to do something but still, there's something there. i got close to kissing her last friday... we had our heads together with our noses touching and i was so tempted but at the same time i thought... never a good idea, particularly when you know she's looking out for someone else.
i will admit though i've had my doubts about whether that other guy is the only guy she likes... whenever we cuddle she plays with my fingers and hands in a way that only a girlfriend would really.
personally, as always whenever i leave a problem on here, i'm not particularly asking for help as such... just what everyone else is thinking about it really i suppose.
if you think there's anything i should do then feel free to advise away :)
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Bel Bel » Tue Dec 01, 2009 12:41 pm

Is she definatley still into this guy, i.e has she talked about him recently.
Maybe her feelings have weakened for him as she gets closer to you
She could of course just be over friendly and be giving you confusding signals
The only real way to find out would be to ask her or perhaps her twin
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Ogadai » Tue Dec 01, 2009 9:57 pm

good to see you're still on Belbel... always the 1st to help me... if you remember me having problems with being obsessed over a girl before you might remember who i am... let's hope this doesn't turn out the same way! i'm certain it won't, i learnt from that greatly :)
yeah i'm just going to give it time for now, i suppose that's all i can do... today was quite comical... she said to me 'i'll come and say goodbye before i go' because she was college after lunch, and her twin who was sat near to us went 'ooooooo' and she gave her twin a nervous glance so maybe there is something. but we shall see what happens and if anything does of course.
also i spoke to one person i don't know directly but i know her, now ex, boyfriend and she said they'd started off in th esame way too so... you never know

any more advice will be appreciated guys
and good to see you're still on here Belbel... i haven't been on in years so it all seems quite new to me!
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Bel Bel » Wed Dec 02, 2009 12:39 pm

Yes I do remember you Ogadai, you write poetry and are quite a deep sensitive young man, which a lot of girls will be really pleased to have as a b/f.

Anyway it all sounds like it's moving in the right direction naturally, so just hang in there, it will be worth the wait :wink:
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Ogadai » Wed Dec 02, 2009 10:10 pm

haha... yeah i try poetry but i'm more into novels and such these days... trying to write a sort of present tense autobiography and it's going well, have a few quite a few entries and plenty more to come now with college life running full stem ahead :D
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Dec 04, 2009 1:58 pm

I look foward to buying one of your novels when you are famous then :D
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Ogadai » Sun Dec 20, 2009 2:30 am

well a lot of things have happened since i last posted on here:

i and her have become far more close and i've had it pulled out of me that there's a girl in college i like, she still isn't aware, in fact we talk about it almost all the time and she's still unaware (wow i must be sly!) and i did say to her i'd ask out this girl on new year's eve at a party that we're both going to

now, i've decided that asking her out might not be a good idea because i learnt not long before we split up for christmas that she has her eyes on another guy so i feel it's only best now to tell her that i care about her and all of the usual stuff as more of a... i can't quite think of the word... a reassurance style thing, if you get what i mean. just so she knows i'm always there for her, but most likely only as a friend. but you never know, we may end up getting together, only time will tell.

i shall update you on what her reaction is, etc, once i've told her
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Bel Bel » Mon Dec 21, 2009 2:18 pm

Sounds like that will be for the best right now.
It will happen if it's meant to be
Have a great party anyway :D
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby Ogadai » Mon Dec 21, 2009 6:27 pm

well i succeeded and failed at the same time

as expected she just wanted to remain friends, which is the failure (no 7... they're mounting up! lol) but at the same time we've both promised nothing will change to that's a success in itself.

i know u hvnt 'helped' as such bt still thnx bel bel :)
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Re: A friend... or a potential to be more?

Postby shell » Tue Dec 29, 2009 10:01 pm

why dont you text her and say , you dont wanna spoil the friendship, but feel that there could be more, if there cant be more then you wanna remain friends and tell her that if its a no go , forget all about the text.bes, etc etc.
but you still wanna be mates.
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