Hello all, I needed to have a bit of a rant, and I'd like your advice on what to do in my current situation!
I work with my boyfriend (lets call him BOYFRIEND). We've worked there for about 7 months, but about 2 months ago, there was a big increase in 'young' people who started and consequently, the after-work socialising has increased from once a month, to every Friday.
I dont have a lot of friends where I live anymore, some of them have moved away, some I've just drifted apart, so I really enjoy these Friday night drinks as a chance to spend some time with people. Over the last couple of months I've gone out most Fridays, sometimes for an hour, sometimes until late.
I was glad at first that my boyfriend and I worked together and so had the same work people, but about 6 weeks ago, a new guy started (lets call him IDIOT!). BOYFRIEND really took a dislike to IDIOT, but I thought he seemed really nice, and we'd struck up a casual friendship. BOYFRIEND said the reason he didnt like IDIOT was because IDIOT liked me and he was jealous. I was a bit frustrated by this and over the past few weeks, BOYFRIEND has got more jealous of him (even though I NEVER see IDIOT when BOYFRIEND isnt there, and even then, I dont spend that much time talking to him), but it's not been too much of an issue.
A couple of weeks ago, BOYFRIEND got really stressed out about it, and said he was fed up and didnt want to go out and see some guy trying to flirt with his girlfriend, and we had a bit of a row about it, and I basically said he'd completely made up the fact that this guy likes me, he's just being paranoid.
Sooooo. Last week, my boyfriend was off sick, and so I went out for Friday night drinks without him. IDIOT was quite drunk and my boyfriend rang me saying could he come over so I went home to meet him.
A bit later in the night, my boyfriend and I were chatting, and I heard my phone go off (text message), I glanced at the screen, saw it was IDIOT and I ignored it as I was talking, but it went off again a few seconds later from IDIOT again, so I decided I'd check it wasnt important. The first message said "I really like you. So much. By the way", and the second said "Sorry".
Soo, my boyfriend has now freaked out about it, and said he doesnt want to go out with him ever again. I can understand why, and situation reversed, I wouldnt be thrilled either, but it puts me in a bad situation. I dont go out for work drinks so I can see IDIOT, but IDIOT is always there.
I wasnt at work yesterday so the first time I saw IDIOT since then was this morning, and he completely ignored me, and just looked down when he walked past me, so I guess he's embarrased.
I'm so mad at him! He knows I'm with BOYFRIEND, and he knows we're happy together, and that we're in love, so why would he think that was a good idea to send that message? He's just put me in a bad situation, and it means I've now lost a potential friend in him.
Im very annoyed!!!