by RagDoll » Wed Apr 28, 2010 2:54 pm
I’ve had a friend for 3-4 years now that I was once reasonably close to, but have grown apart from in the last couple of years. To cut a long story short, I feel our friendship has reached a natural conclusion – we have totally different lifestyles and although I think she’s a nice enough person, to be blunt, I don’t really enjoy her company anymore. As time has marched on, we’ve seen less and less of each other, so I assumed she probably felt the same about me, but she stills pops up every now and again and suggests we get together. The last time she did this, I reluctantly agreed to go for dinner with her, mostly because I feel guilty and didn’t know how to let her down gently.
In the end, she cancelled on me anyway, saying she’d managed to get a last-minute hospital appointment as someone had cancelled theirs (she has issues with her health), obviously I just accepted that, but saw that she was using Facebook during the time she’d said her appointment was at. I asked her about it and she said work had told her she had to go to a meeting, so she couldn’t go to her appointment anymore. Basically, I get the feeling she was just making up some excuse not to see me and I’d just caught her out.
We’ve now re-arranged for this Friday coming and she’s already said she can’t stay long as she has to dash off to another arrangement. My problem is, how do you let a friendship go without being harsh?!?! Quite honestly, I’m not bothered about seeing her again and would rather not go for dinner on Friday, but don’t know how to stop her asking me every now and again to meet up. I could just ignore her, but that seems a bit nasty. Any thoughts?
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