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is this normal?

Postby neuchowski » Thu May 19, 2011 8:20 am

I'm bisexual and have a boyfriend who I am completely in love with but lately I've only been attracted to girls. If I watch porn I don't want to see a single penis or I just lose the mood. I always considered myself a 50/50 bisexual so why am I suddenly so obsessed with girls? I still have great sex with my boyfriend but the temptations and bad feelings are particularly strong right now. i keep fantasizing about going to a club and just cheating on my boyfriend with some random girl. is it because i'm already getting my fill of straight sex and i'm just not like fulfilling my other needs? is that normal? I feel terrible and selfish. I've thought about suggesting a threesome to my boyfriend but then the thought of seeing him with someone else kind of makes me want to be sick so it's not fair that I should act like I'm allowed just because i'm attracted to both sexes.
i'm not really sure how to feel about this.
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Re: is this normal?

Postby Ticktock » Fri May 20, 2011 7:54 am

It's normal for you, that's the simple answer.

I presume your sexuality has been like this for a while, and I would guess your boyfriend is probably unaware of it.

You know that you can act however you like on the basis of physical attraction, but it will have consequences, which is most likely the loss of your boyfriend.

You could just be going though the bi-sexual version of the seven-year itch, forbidden fruit and all that, or this could be a permanent change in your sexuality, it does happen after all no-one has a little meter to tell they are 50/50!

The answer you need to find is where are you happiest? Some bi-sexuals leave decades long trails of emotional wreckage as they veer from one side to another, doing what is 'normal' and then doing what makes them happy.

Once you have that answer then you will know where you might settle down.
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