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im scared i hurt myself

Post by saramidnite » Tue Dec 10, 2013 11:18 am

yesterday my supervisor was nasty to me on my birthday. i wanted to cut myself. i didnt. i promise my bf i wouldnt. today my mansager wanted to fire me. i explained the bullying at work. she said it due to me not working. due to that i am being told off. if i dont buck up my ideas they have to let me go. i new no one would believe me. my supervisor been nasty to me for ages. i explained i have depression due to work. she said i not being picked on. i said ive kept a record of every thing. she told unless i hoping for a claim why else would i do that. i pointed out my doctor advise it for when i start my counsuling. its not fair. im being bullied and now i am almost fired for speaking up. i wasnt trying to complain about the people she told to go to her office and asked me why i not working as well as i should be hence why i told her. i couldnt stop crying. im so ashammed.

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Re: im scared i hurt myself

Post by all_apologies » Tue Dec 10, 2013 8:17 pm

Hi Sara,

try not to let the situation get to you. Put it into perspective - a job is just a job, it is not ever worth hurting yourself over. Even if the worst happened and you left that workplace, you could go off and find another job. You can't get another body - so don't abuse the one you've got!

Anyway, back to the situation at hand. Is there anyone above your manager at work? Be it someone in the workplace or a head office you could contact? If you feel you're being bullied and your manager is not being supportive, you're completely within your rights to take it higher.

Just remember, don't stress. Don't take it out on yourself - seek advice on what to do in your own workplace and take it from there.

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Post by saramidnite » Wed Dec 11, 2013 9:12 am

my manager head of hr and where i work. she dont work on shop floor. she believes my supervisor. she said she putting her job on the line by giving me another chance. i wish i could just quit and worried they wil give me a bad reference. serval people have stuck up for my supervisor as she liedcabout to them. i give up.

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Post by snail » Wed Dec 11, 2013 10:01 am

I do think you would be better off working somewhere else. I know you're not in a town, but there must be some other jobs around, even if it's just something like cleaning? At least that way you wouldn't have to stay with these people.
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Post by saramidnite » Wed Dec 11, 2013 4:30 pm

ive applied for a few things. fingers crossed i at least get an interview. i really finding it hard how they could be so nasty. i phoned for counsuling support today. they going phone me next week for a phone session. i just worried now i get a bad referrence from them next. thank you both for your advice.

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Post by snail » Wed Dec 11, 2013 5:28 pm

Glad to hear you've got plans. Even if nothing happens immediately, that will make you feel better.
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Post by Bel Bel » Thu Dec 12, 2013 9:38 am

A lot of employers don't ask for a reference and even if they do your employer is not allowed to give a bad one by law. They can just put "saramidnite turned up for work" which would make someone think that's a odd reference but there are always two sides to every story.

TBH I don't really take any notice of references. People don't always get on with everyone or with every job. We are all different. I take people on how they present themselves at interview and then how they perform once they work for me. Any decent employer will have the same views and they are the kind of person you want to be working for.

I agree with Snail that you should try to get out and do any job and if that isn't the job you want you can look for something else whilst in that job. At least it will get you away from these nasty people.
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Re: im scared i hurt myself

Post by saramidnite » Thu Dec 12, 2013 10:33 pm

thank you. i have applied for a job sadly heard nothing. but i am.hopeful
i took my medication in to prove to hr i not lying about being depressed due to work. but they say that i still only being told of due to my lack of energy to my job. so i put a fake smile on all day. as hr lady watched me all day. it made me feel like im not trusted. i did a good job. hr lady ecen yold me i did better today. my supervisor was off today so no one was nasty to me today so i could do my work in peace

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