Hello i could really do with some help, im 36 & recently met a girl through (she is a member), we got talking & she had recently split up with her ex. She is 21 & has had a lot of issues in her life, but we got on & started to spend time together. She works full time in a male environment & as such gets a lot of male attention, she admits to liking older guys & was spending a lot of time getting drunk with them & having casual relations with one particular guy who she admits hadnt been treating her particularly well...usual thing that players do, say what they need to say in order to get what they want then leave the girl heartbroken.
We spent time together & a relationship developed, nothing serious just spending time together, but then just this last weekend when she was out something happened (i dont know what as she has clamed up) & she has gone from wanting to date me & not being worried about age gaps...to suddenly saying it doesnt work, she always gets hurt, it cant work & that she is now seeing someone....
Only bits i can get out of her is that something happened with this other guy she works with & she has ended up hurt...but she wont say what other than its changed her outlook on age gaps as she cant cope with it.
Meanwhile im left gutted because we are still friends, she admits she has. feelings for me but the age gap wont work...i dont get it, how can it change so quickly? why? & what can i do to show her im not like the others & im
not going to hurt her? in a short space of 3 months we have been through an awful lot together & now it feels loe im
being punished because of someones bad actions....
We are still speaking but not about the relationship & she does say she doesnt want to lose me.....
Help help help!