Should I marry my cheating boyfriend…….
Hes 39 im 33, we have been going out now 3 years, up until now I thought we had a great relationship… however iv recently found out he cheated on me with 2 girls.
One he meet for date behind my back when I was on a girls night out – they kissed, I read this on his phone. he said she perused him and as soon as he was there he knew he wanted to leave and it was just a peck on the lips. and the other was with a married woman with which the husband caught them together and told me. This was at a house party where the husband was upstairs. I literally found this all out within 2 days. The 2 incidents happened a month apart.i have no other reason to believe he has cheated other than this.
Hes denying sleeping with the married woman but by the sounds of it it was abit more than just kissing.
Im totally devastated by this all, we get on so well and im the one with the higher sex drive, we had talked about getting engaged and married for a few months before he cheated and he said he would propose very soon, I acutally though he might have propsed that week I found out he cheated…. I Just don’t understand him ;( Iv asked him to explain to me why he has done this…but he cant, just keeps saying how stuid he was and that he loves me etc
We have obviously split up, he is constantly crying lost over a stone in weight and is begging me back for the last 4 months, saying how stupid he was and that he will never do anything like this again and beggin me to marry him and that he has truly changed and learnt a serious life lesson and that he will spend the rest of his life making it up to me. I can see now that we had poor communication before, because since this has happened we have talked allot about our feelings and our relationship, I actually feel closer to him now in a weird way.
I really love him and I can see he is genuinely has changed and is making such an effort, I just don’t think I can ever trust him again after this, can he really change?….should I give him another chance? Another thing is im nearly 34 I want to get married and have children I could ruin my chances of ever having children if we don’t get back, am I really going to meet someone else and get married by 35, and whos to say they wont cheat either….I know il be very happy with him the only thing is the trust…..i really want to forgive him its just so hard and I get so angry…it would be easier to accept if we were fighting or there was a reason for this but to me it was just such a shock
Should i forgive him and get married or start from scratch and hope I can met someone else ….?