by Tarantula » Thu Nov 17, 2016 12:33 pm
I think you need to slow down. WAY down.
Are you afraid of being single? Why?
It sounds like you've basically rebounded onto this new guy - of COURSE, after a long time of being bored in a relationship, any new guy would've looked like the best thing in the world.
Living together after three months is very risky considering you had no time whatsoever to breathe and adjust to being single again. It seems that he is rebounding too. You're very much in the honeymoon phase now, and things are gonna change - your relationship is gonna be tested. In fact, I think it already IS being tested, or you wouldn't have written on here.
Are you just another girl? Well.... probably. Men aren't stupid. He knows you were willing to jump straight in with him at a second's notice; that suggests low value. It suggests you were desperate for a way out.
You've have no time in your youth so far to experience life single, to focus on friendships, your career, your hopes and dreams; don't settle for just being known as this-gut-or-that-guy's girlfriend. Be your own person for a while. Date if you feel like it, but nothing serious. These years won't come back once they're gone.
Small caveat: If he was truly wonderful to you, if he treated you exceptionally well and you felt true chemistry with him, truly supported, inspired even, to work more on other departments of your life... if this relationship wasn't compromising any part of your life but only enhanced it... then I would say different. But the fact that you've written tells me this is not the exception. We all want to think we're the exception, don't we? Three months in and you've already got concerns about another girl/an ex? Yeah, this isn't gonna go well.
I think to be honest, you're infatuated with the idea of a shiny new person. Fate isn't real. Proceed cautiously and make sensible life decisions - you ain't 15 no more.