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Emotional abuse

Post by Tarantula » Mon Dec 05, 2016 8:36 pm

Hello PP!

I thought I would let you know that I've made a video all about emotional abuse, which is something I feel is not talked about enough and which seems to apply to many of the problems people post on here.

It's on YouTube, so PM me if you'd like to see it.

PS - I also do regular videos about child sexual abuse. Anyone who's familiar with my posts knows that it happened to me.

On a happy note, my posting this represents a real milestone in terms of how my life is going today. Honestly, things have never been better. Thank you, collectively, for anyone who's ever replied to any of my posts, which have been many, over the years. :D
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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by David020549 » Tue Dec 06, 2016 7:14 am

Congratulations Siobhan all that took real guts I hope you go from strength to strength now.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Trevaskiss » Tue Dec 06, 2016 9:01 am

I'll have a peek at that when I get home from work.

I'm now 3 months out of an emotionally abusive relationship and I've got a feeling I'll need to be on my own to watch it as it's all still so very very raw for me.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Celebritydiscodave » Tue Dec 06, 2016 10:26 pm

I`m trying to run a sanctuary from home for young women the sufferers of such relationships, but actually, I`m finding it desperately hard. None of them have ever got even close to your stage, of being able to turn this negative experience into something positive, something which can be serviced in the counselling of the world. I think of this level of progression, when comfortably sustainable, as being characteristic of something like a near full recovery. In my opinion the only genuine experts are in reality those such as yourselves.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Tarantula » Wed Dec 07, 2016 5:57 pm

Thank you David, Trevaskiss and Disco Dave! I really appreciate that feedback.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Trevaskiss » Thu Dec 08, 2016 1:29 pm

Watched this last night and I could identify with sooooooooo many of the things you spoke about. Well done you on a) doing this video, b) getting out of the mess and c) turning your life around.

Getting out is the hardest thing in the world to do - and as you said, many times, you go back until one day you just can't take it any more.

As I was watching and listening, on each point you made, I visualised different scenarios I had with my ex where exactly those things happened.

P.S - I don't know what I imagined you to be like, but you were not at all what I imagined :D

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Tarantula » Thu Dec 08, 2016 6:03 pm

Thank you T, I had a feeling it would resonate with you. And uh, thanks again - I think! You've kind of covered yourself there by saying you didn't know how you imagined me to be in real life :P

I've gone through so many cycles of anger and wanting to 'settle the score', and then feeling guilty for no reason, and then feeling again like it was all in my head, and then back to resentment. Now I'm mostly numb, and just glad I never hear from them. Doing this video really took me to the next level of closure, though. I remembered so many things as I was saying them. And it really is true what I said... the real lie is the one they're living. In your case, your ex parading someone new around town as if he isn't just using her now that you're no longer around for him to use as an emotional punching bag - classic. It's all smoke and mirrors. The next women will suffer the same fate, but you're free now.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by brfc » Wed Feb 22, 2017 8:22 am

Out of interest why say it's for young women when men are also emotionally abused. It's not a gender thing it's a human thing.

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by brfc » Wed Feb 22, 2017 8:49 am

I found a very interesting article about men being emotionally abused and I'm surprised there are no support groups for them. There expected to just accept it I guess http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emoti ... abuse-too/ hope that's ok to post

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by snail » Wed Feb 22, 2017 12:52 pm

I don't think gender makes much difference emotionally. Nonetheless, I think it still happens more often to women because of cultural/social reasons (patriarchal society).
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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by Tarantula » Sat Feb 25, 2017 5:23 pm

Sorry brfc I don't understand - where have I said it's for young women?

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Re: Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Post by stephie2 » Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:04 am

Tarantula wrote:Sorry brfc I don't understand - where have I said it's for young women?
I don't see that you did :D

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