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Postby DJG » Fri Jan 03, 2003 10:56 pm

Right, I've known this girl for three years now. I've always liked her but never actually persued her.

Then, recently, I started flirting. I kept hugging her, and we spent three whole consecutive days together. She started acting exactly the same way I am doing, saying at one point, "Don't change a thing. You're tasty already!". Since I like her a lot, and she acts like I do, I wonder whether she likes me.

Now, I don't know what to do. Nothing is official, we are still friends. But since this is the first time someone has ever flirted with me, I don't know what to do!! Help!

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Postby Aldo » Sat Jan 04, 2003 1:55 am

Ask her how she feels about you, and then take it from there I think. If she feels as if you two can be mroe than friends and you feel the same then go out! The fact you have known her for 3 years makes it great, as you are already great friends...it wont be the same as just meeting someone from a club etc. Bite the bullet.
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Postby DJG » Sat Jan 04, 2003 8:05 pm

Yeah, I suppose. I've always been able to convince other people to ask people out. You know, "What do you have to lose?" and "At the very least, you'll know how they feel". But for some reason it never works on me.

I'll pluck up the courage from somewhere.

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Postby Aldo » Sat Jan 04, 2003 9:31 pm

yeah know how you feel. Takes a lot of courage sometimes. i was at the same situation once a few months ago, but i bit the bullet and asked her out. She said no, as she hought of me just as a friend. I thought cool. And we still talk to each other as before. Its because I know her well, and we both dont want to break up our friendship. now I`m fine and looking forward. It hurts for a while but you gotta live. Hope you find the courage and luck.
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Postby DJG » Sun Mar 23, 2003 9:55 pm

OK, I got the courage and asked her out. She said no but then kissed me full on, on the lips and with tongue. That confused me a little! :-?

Then, she keeps hugging me and she's kissed me on the cheek twice this week. I asked her out again and she said no.

Is she being a girl or does she fancy me and not want to admit it? Help!!!
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Postby Aldo » Sun Mar 23, 2003 9:59 pm

well, 2 nos. I think its a no. Maybe thats just her way of letting guys down. To be honest its a nice way!

Maybe she just likes the idea that someone fancies her. She might just be flirty as well with you. I think you should now move on. Okay, maybe you can try for a third and last time if you feel it will help. I would be confused as well.
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Postby DJG » Sun Mar 23, 2003 10:10 pm

Maybe it is just me wishing but she says things to me like.....

"You are so sweet"
"You are brilliant"
"You're tasty enough already"

But yet she doesn't want to go out with me.......
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Postby Enigma » Sun Mar 23, 2003 10:49 pm

Just because she likes you, it doesn't mean she wants to be in a relationship with you.

It might be that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at all.
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Postby DJG » Sun Mar 23, 2003 10:51 pm

I suppose.......
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Postby Enigma » Mon Mar 24, 2003 12:58 am

It's not exactly what you want to hear DJG, but it's likely to be the unfortunate truth. I'd try to focus on the fact this girl does like and appreciate you. You never know, in time something might develop...
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