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Why hurt her?

Post by DHa » Thu Mar 20, 2003 6:00 pm

my problem is im 14 and the girl i luv is 16, i didnt think she'd luk at me twice but she did and we went out together 4 2 wks during this time she tuk my virginity. But then my girlfriend wanted 2 try agen so i did. A few wks l8r the same happened agen The 1 day a few weeks ago ema* was upset so i tuk her 4 a fag n i kissed her but she sed id hurt her b4 and id do it agen. The thing is i no shes rite but i luv her so much, why do i keep hurting her?
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Post by stellar » Thu Mar 20, 2003 8:29 pm

so what exactly happened? You're in love with a girl who you've slept with but you have girlfriend too?

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Ye

Post by DHa » Thu Mar 20, 2003 9:01 pm

Ye ema*s amazin iv finished with that girl now but theres been anuva since i was gonna dump her b4 ema found out i went with her but my cousin let it slip :x

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Post by stellar » Fri Mar 21, 2003 4:43 pm

So basically what you're saying is that you're "in love" with Ema but you are still seeing other girls on the side?
My advice is, if you really do "love" Ema then you should stop messing around with other girls and prove to her that you can be loyal to just one girl. Otherwise you're just going to mess Ema around and hurt her feelings, and if you really do "love" her then you wouldn't want that would you?
Plus if you really do love her then why are you carrying on with other girls?

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Post by DHa » Fri Mar 21, 2003 5:31 pm

becoz shes got a lot of issues n that scares me she was abused n thats a big w8 on my shoulders :(

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Post by Enigma » Fri Mar 21, 2003 10:14 pm

How's that a big weight on your shoulders? All you've got to do is treat her properly...

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Post by DHa » Sat Mar 22, 2003 11:19 am

Sumtimes she freaks out n has flash backs n i cant cope with that

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Post by misatok11 » Sat Mar 22, 2003 4:05 pm

If you really do care for her then help her through these and talk to her. She is probably scared too. Reassure her.

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Post by DHa » Sat Mar 22, 2003 7:13 pm

woz suposd 2 c ema lst nite but did the decent thing n didnt go cos we wudv ad sex but i go wid sum1 els now

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Post by Enigma » Sat Mar 22, 2003 8:10 pm

What is your actual problem DHa?

You can't make your mind up which girl to go for?

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Post by KoRn_Freak » Sat Mar 22, 2003 11:08 pm

Sounds like you don't know what you want. Tip: if you 'love' Ema, you won't keep going off with other girls and sleeping with them. For one, that's degrading to your reputation, and two, it's obviously hurting Ema a lot. No wonder she freaks out and has flash backs: don't be surprised if she's ready to spaz and get ready to break your neck. She obviously feels used. You gotta learn to be faithful. Honesty's the only policy.

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